I do, sort of.

A good friend of mine and I was talking about relationships and such as we so often do. Mostly because it is a interesting subject. One that brings out emotion, dreams, fears, fantasy, and last but not least.......reality! I must confess that I have not been in a lot of relationships over the years, but I have been in some very long and protracted relationships. I only mention this as a quantifier for my limited opinion in regards to prenuptial agreements. I know that the mere mention of this will strike an immediate reaction with most of you, one way or another given your own experiences. I also must say that my own inclination is that I feel that I am a hopeless romantic myself. The problem being is that I am a realist as well. Their in lies the dilemma.

This may seem cold but I tend to view marriage more as a business partnership than a religious proclamation. I think the ceremonies are nice, and well.... warm and fuzzy but in reality it is a legally binding contract that states that when you partner up, you are agreeing to take on all of the other parties baggage and cover for it as well. Think of it as glorified cosigning for someone for life.

My thought is that we buy insurance for everything else in life that has a much higher degree of not happening, and we fail to insure ourselves against a legal partnership that has over a 50% degree of probability of not seeing the ten year mark. Why? I believe that for a lot of people it is a lot like talking about our mortality. We are pretty sure that it could happen, we just don't want to bring up the subject because it makes us uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is getting in a relationship of any sort using emotion as the primary driver. It doesn't matter whether its a car, a cell phone, or contract at Golds Gym. It drives me crazy to here someone say that you shouldn't talk about prenupts because you are focusing on the negative and you must not really be " in love " if you even bring up the subject. I say Bullshit!! I say if you really care about someone that these topics need to be addressed, as painful as it may be, its even more painful to have to live with the coulda, shoulda, wouldas, because of emotion. This is not why we go to school to learn things, just to get out in the world and let fantasy, religious mysticism's and emotion run our lives.

To set the record clear I am all for marriage if it makes sense and is well thought out, but not for indiscriminate coupling just to keep people with ideological fantasy's to keep from having to think outside the box.